Tuesday, July 29, 2008
A little detour(but not)...God does speak
Monday, July 28, 2008
Beyond 30 days.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
To those of you sharing the adventure with me...
Thursday, July 10, 2008
Day 20...a perspective that brings freedom
Monday, July 7, 2008
A little serving of hope.
Almost 2 weeks ago I started a quest to pray every day for marriage/marriages and I asked people to join me. I also started a blog where I have been sharing some of the stuff God is and has been teaching me in relation to marriage over the years.
What I need from you is hope. I am seeing marriages dissolve and I am looking for hope. Are we standing? Are we praying? Are we seeing broken marriages redeemed. Please tell me.
I am believing in a God who can restore a broken marriage. He has redeemed mine in a major way over the last few years. Tell me I'm not alone in this? Tell me if I'm wrong. Does God not hate divorce anymore? Does he allow it for other reasons besides marital unfaithfulness or if an unbelieving spouse leaves? Is there another biblical truth that I am missing?
All I am asking for is honest feedback. Don't include names, but if you have a story of hope...tell me. I believe with all my heart that God is the only answer to a lasting marriage. And I am standing on that, but I also know that people may be reading my blog who need to "see" hope like Thomas needed to feel the wounds in Jesus's hands and sides.
If you want to join me in my quest...do it. I committed to 30 days...please join me. If you are so inclined visit my blog too. Thank you if you already are.
Thanks for listening and sharing if you are able. God bless you and your marriages.
I got quite a lot of positive feedback, but I also got a couple of great messages of hope. I want to share one of them with you. Some of you might have allready read it, but here it is again if you didn't. It's from a friend of mine who's was in a very serious car accident with her husband. She could have ran from a situation that ended up being a lot more work than she expected, but she stayed...and has been blessed. Here's what she had to say:
You're right about not knowing what you're getting yourself into. When I said "I do" I became wife, lover, nurses aide, physiotherapist, counselor, secretary, business associate, maid, personal shopper, and the list gets beyond managing when you add 'mother' to it. My Will and I have had some pretty rough times with his car wreck stuff...there have been so many many moments when all I could do was sink to the ground and weep because I had to carry so much by myself. Newly married and living on our own for the first time, trying to keep us afloat on just my salary, in and out of hospital, infections, useless doctors. Lots of moments where I would pray for strength, take deep breaths and feel the strength I needed running through me. I started to see that it wasn't just strength, but the awareness of God's love for Will that I could be a vessel for. Imagine having something in common with God! God's love for me is not just a feeling, it's in what he's done for me, and with me. So my love for my husband can be in all the things I do with and for him. GOD DOEN'T TEST US TO SEE IF WE'RE STRONG ENOUGH. HE TESTS US SO THAT WE WILL KNOW THAT WE'RE STRONG ENOUGH. I have a great deal of hope for my marriage's future. William will never get the use of his leg back. He may not be able to walk once he's forty. Docotrs have threatened us with crippling arthritis, neurological degeneration, infertility and even amputation of that leg. All I can say is that it's a good thing God gave us each other, we're going to need us. Our love is the stronger for the rough road. There is always hope!!
My Friend has chosen in her moments of despair to call on God for strength. And He came through for her with a perspective that we could all use. When we choose to love our spouse we are a vessel of God's love for them. In my own marriage I have come to see that Will and I are not together by some random accident. Everything in my life leading up to the point when I said "I do" was preparing me to be the right woman for my husband. God knew that I had just the right stuff to not only put up with the man that I have, but also to bless and love him the way that he needed. I know that we all carry junk into our marriages. We have different insecurities and different needs. I know from experience that my husband sees my junk and he speaks God's truth to me where I need it. He has strengths where I have weaknesses and vice versa. Don't sell yourself short my friends. You are God's gift to one another. We need to believe that and choose like my friend, to be a vessel of love to our spouse and to see God at work in our lives together.
If you have a message of hope in relation to what we've been talking about, please feel free to share it. I also want to encourage you to be open with people about your areas of struggle in marriage. Sometimes we fall into the trap of trying to convince everyone that we're O.K. when really we aren't. That is a dangerous place. When we are vulnerable and honest, we give others the opportunity to offer support and encouragement...AND PRAYER. Sharing your life also lets others know that they are not alone in their struggles...that can make a huge difference to someone looking for a reason to stick it out.
Keep praying with me.
May God bless your marriages.